About

Ellen Bobruff-Reese

I have been in the field over 3 decades and studied many topics intensively. I view myself as a teacher and my clients as partners, unaware of skills and solutions that I can teach them. As a result of Our work, you can make better choices to attain their goals. Nobody can make a choice, until they are aware that it exists.

For those clients who wish to know what specific skills I use and teach, they include CBT, Role Play, Hypnosis, Guided Imagery, Imago Relationship Therapy, Parenting, including the Nurtured Heart Approach, and Coaching.

I treat individuals and couples for a variety of issues. These include Anxiety, Depression, Panic Disorder, Retirement, Grief, ACOA, Parenting, as well as looking for a partner and relationship issues. If a client is feeling stuck, or wishing to find more passion, I work with you to break through your obstacles by listening, teaching new skills and information while providing encouragement and guidance. I have extensive experience in group, individual, family, and online therapy.

I am licensed to practice therapy in both CT and California, and have over 3 decades of experience. Over 50 per cent of my private practice has always consisted of Relationship Therapy, specifically Imago Relationship Therapy for Couples. Whether it is with couples who are experiencing Pain in their relationships, couples who wish to do premarital work, or individuals looking to learn from previous relationships and learn to be better prepared for their next relationship.

I chose to become certified in Imago Relationship Therapy, developed by Harville Hendrix PhD, shortly after his first book Getting the Love You Want was released. It was a significant departure from previous schools of couples therapy, and instantly became a great resource to systematically help couples understand their issues differently, and to equip them with skills to successfully address them.

Instead of reinforcing the couple’s tendency to blame each other, it helped couples appreciate that their issues really were their issues. It is not a matter of who is most to blame for any issue, but a question that is a result of the relationship, and the fact that in our culture, there is no place where people are systematically taught how to be “Emotionally Healthy”, which is definitely not the same thing as being “Normal”.

There is definitely no place in our society where individuals are taught the skills to have “Emotionally Healthy” Relationships. It does not serve a purpose to look for the partner who is most to blame. It serves couples, their families, and society to teach them to understand their relationship differently and teach them the skills giving them the power to change their relationship from Pain and Blame to one of Healing, Empathy, and Passion.

After carefully listening to you’re your hopes, fears, and your pain, I will give you active feedback about where you are stuck and specific tools so you can begin healing. As you see options you haven’t seen before, you can find passion, challenges, and excitement where before you saw pain, problems, and stress.

I will use additional tools, as indicated by your situation, as relationship issues can be complicated by a variety of issues including Anxiety, Depression, Substance Abuse, Grief, ACOA, and Parenting issues. I have studied these concerns intensively, and can address them effectively in the context of Relationship Counseling.

I also treat individuals for Anxiety and Depression, using a variety of tools including, but not limited to CBT, Mindfulness, Meditation, Hypnosis, Role Play, and Exposure Therapy.